GIRL: "Look!! My shirt/pants is getting loose."
JERK: "Did you stretch it out?"
This implies you have not lost weight like the scale says but that you have gained it or stretched out the clothing's material that you are claiming to be loose on you and he is a fricken loser jerk that doesn't support you during your struggle with weight loss.
GIRL: "Do you want to do/go (somewhere/thing) on (someday)?"
JERK: "I don't know I have to see what else is going on first."
This implies you are not a first choice and he feels something/someone else would/could be more fun and infact three days after you ask him he ditches you for some chick he is currently doing and you are left alone to hate him for it.
GIRL: "You have told me that we are just friends and always will only be just friends so that means that I can safely conclude that we will never, ever be a couple in this lifetime. Correct?"
JERK: "Why? Why do you need to know this? I can't answer that unless I know why you are asking this."
GIRL: "Answer the question."
JERK: "Tell me why you need to know this."
GIRL: " It shouldn't matter. I'm asking you to clarify a statement you made to me. Answer the question."
JERK: "I don't know what the future holds for us. A lot of things could change. Life changes."
GIRL: "So you have feelings for me you think could eventually grow into something more?"
JERK: "I don't know what the future holds."
This implies that you are being manipulated into thinking that eventually, MAYBE the JERK that you have feelings for (that you really don't want to have because he is a jerk) is going to someday profess his undying love for you in a romantical display of emotion even though he is already seeing some other chick that he is planning on asking to be his girlfriend. (Even though he told you that he doesn't want to be serious with anyone until his kids are 18)
Basically he is a low down manipulating coward that tries to keep his hold on you knowing you have these feelings so he can use you for what he needs.
FLIPPIN' JERK!
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Get over Mark and fast! Just a word from the wise. You deserve so much better and can do so much better. You are not special to him. There are 40 plus women who have "been special" and thought they were different. We've been there and done that. Mark wants something he is never going to find. The problem lies with him. You focus on this new woman he has but do really think it is going to last forever. She will get sick of being his Taxi and lose him too. Maybe in a month or a year but it will happen, or he'll get bored and move on. He always does. You need to let it go and move on. Mark will give you nothing but heartache and despair. I am not saying this to be mean but look at the conversation you just wrote about him. Do you think he will ever profess his undying love for you or does he know you have feelings for him and can use that to manipulate you into doing his bidding for however longer you'll take it? Mark is, was, and always will be a leech. He has no ambition to do anything more than live off of others and make as many babies as he can. He lives the joke about men thinking with their penis. You were there when we were arguing about his daughter's depression. His response about his 14 year old child being depressed to the point that she does not like being around people, including her family, was to throw his hands in the air and say "there's nothing I can do". Do you want to spend any more time than you have to with a man who values himself like that more than even his own children. He spoke of T's suicide attempt like it was reinforcing that it was okay that A was becoming the same because T came out okay right? This is long and drawn out but trust me when I say this, what you have always gotten from Mark is what you will always get. Life does change, you can build up your self-esteem enough to tell him to not let the door hit him in the ass on the way out the door. Please honey, don't waste any more time wondering if there will ever be anything between the two of you. If there was going to be it would have happened already. You need to find someone who will treat you like the incredible person that you are deserves to be treated, not to be treated only as kindly as need be to continue getting favors. I'm done, the soap box is caved in. Love you bunches!
Heather
I just want sanity and the only way to get that is for him to be gone.
I want to date men that actually like me.
My grandmother told me something when I was about 18 years old that has always stuck with me. "Never date anyone you wouldn't consider marrying. If you date them and know you wouldn't marry them you're just using them."
I know she didn't mean you were going to marry someone to date them just that the possibility was there.
So I guess I have her to thank for not becoming a manwhore huh?....lol
I agree with your Grandmother but I have momentary lapses of judgement or hope that I'm wrong about a person or whatever. I usually never wrong. You would think I would know better already.
She gave you good advice.
I think your reading into it a smidge too deeply. But then again, I don't know the entire situation.
*hug*
Sounds like a leech...drains you in every way.
Skip all the lovey dovey crap! I am starting to get mad at you! Please explain to me why on earth you would want to be with someone so lazy, self centered, selfish, condescending... a complete a**hole? This man has nothing, does nothing, will never have anything and contributes nothing to the world but negative energy. Even if he did want you, why on earth would you want him?????!! Why do women do this stupid bullshit to themselves!
You are constantly working on bettering yourself, you have goals, projects, plans. Take your own damn advise and cut off contact! He is draining positive energy from you and taking up way too much space in your life. Space that could be filld with positive things.
I am tired of all this, why aren't you??
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